"I was hungry enough then to hoard things that were not mine. Years later, I was starving. I called him from the cave of my car. I called him from the darkness of my silent apartment. I called him from the road, emptied of a future. I left and came back. It was night again, and he opened the door wide, letting in a sky that could never be large enough to contain our constellation of losses. "
—from The Going and Goodbye
The Going and Goodbye is an examination of loss and leaving and the search for meaning in the memories that remain. Tracing a path through rural Ohio, the American south and small towns of Mexico, these stories breathe life into a marriage and its dissolution; find a voice that fears mortality then faces it; explore faith in the face of these losses; and ultimately reveal the power of love and letting go.
Chosen as a Dayton Daily News 2017 favorite nonfiction book: "There were some lovely memoirs published, and Shuly Cawood penned my favorite one."
"Powerful writing" ~ Library Journal
"This is a brave writer who moves lyrically and fearlessly toward self-knowledge, a writer who is willing to probe the darkness in the chambers of her own heart, not just the hearts of others. . . . This is a voice you can trust with your life." ~ Joyce Dyer, author of Gum-Dipped and Goosetown
"Cawood’s memoir is peppered with flashes of profundity wrapped in astute observations." ~ Latino Book Review
"'The Going and Goodbye' is a gorgeously conceived expedition of a book. . . . If you read a lot of books then you probably know that feeling you can get when you encounter a writer who has written every single word with exquisite care and precision. . . . There are no wasted words here." ~ Yellow Springs News
"She takes the reader on a journey into her heart and although she takes her time, the narrative never lags. . . . It’s a prime example of how talented writers can make the specifics of their life seem universal." ~ Wild Moo Books
"This book is a treasure." ~ Dayton Daily News
"In this lovely memoir the narrator, although strongly rooted in a particular place, is always on the move into the unknown. … The lyrical, fluid style immediately invites the reader along for the ride. I read this with great pleasure!" ~ Bobbie Ann Mason, author of In Country
"The writing is beautiful, both spare and lush, and the wisdom to be discovered there is genuine and hard won. The Going and Goodbye is a revelation." ~ Matthew Goodman, New York Times bestselling author
"Finding nonfiction that accurately captures the feeling of events both big and small can prove a challenge; however, The Going and Goodbye achieves this feat and much more." ~ New Southern Fugitives
"Cawood's writing [is] beautifully spare. . . " and her memoir is focused "on love and its silences, its heartbreaks, its negotiations, its promises and compromises, its costs and tradeoffs, and eventually its lovely, unselfish, unspoken gifts." ~ Main Street Rag
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